曾经沧海难为水，除却巫山不是云。
取次花丛懒回顾，半缘修道半缘君。
Ceng jing cang hai nan wei shui，chu qu wu shang bu shi yun
Qu ci hua cong lan hui gu，ban yuan xiu dao ban yuan jun
Once I met the deep sea any other water is not water any more, except Wu Mountain’s cloud the other clouds are not clouds any longer.
Don’t want to look behind passing through the flowers, half because of myself half because of you.
(The poet’s wife was just gone when he wrote this poem, he is just trying to tell us he is missing her and it’s hard for him to fall in love again with another woman.)
When you fall in love with someone you get lost in him/her, we think he is the perfect one, the unique one, the one you will follow for the rest of your life. It’s just like the air, you can stay 7day without food, 3 days without water, but without air you can’t live for even 1 minute. Maybe he will remain by your sides, maybe he will go, and when he is gone, you will feel your world crashing down, piece by piece, until every dream and thought is destroyed, then you will close your heart inside, because you think no one can replace him, no one can be better than you, no one can take care of you how he did. After this love, any other is nothing in comparison. You will persuade yourself of this, you will be sadder and sadder until your sky will be dark, so dark that you can’t see any one else that could be another him. I agreed with the poet at first, but I realized it’s not good for anyone to close ourselves, no matter if he is dead or he left just because he didn’t love you anymore, you have to live for yourself not for anyone else. In the first case, like the poet, I guess his wife hopes him to be happy, I don’t think she would be upset or angry if he would marry another woman, because when you love a person everything you want is to make him happy, even if you have to leave. And for the other case, you don’t need to waste time for a person who doesn’t love you anymore, take it easy, why give up an entire forest for a single tree? I really like this poem because it express a lot of people’s feeling, once including mine, but I think of it and decided to open my heart and to be a happy person, love is not everything in life.
